If you are feeling birth fear and anxiety about giving birth, please be reassured that there is a lot we can do to work towards clearing this fear.
Many hypnobirthing courses talk about trusting your body, but a lot of people that I work with don’t have that trust and faith in their bodies automatically.
For some, there is a disconnect from the body that they were born with.
For some, it may have been a challenging fertility journey that has brought them to me, and it is no surprise that they don’t quite trust in their body to know what to do.
As well as the last two potential reasons, we live in a society where we see many pretty horrible births, from soap operas, TV dramas, birthing women, usually on their backs, screaming and not exactly having fun.
We also seem to invite the worlds birth stories the moment we have a bump… and they are frequently horrible.
But I promise you this, there are millions, billions of wonderful birth stories too.
On a social media group I manage, I have a whole host of incredible birth videos listed to watch. But for some, I understand that even wonderful stories, images and videos trigger fear.
Like a spider phobia, even though I can tell you that this spider is harmless, the size of a pea, scared of you squishing it, and doing all it can to save itself from you… telling you this alone probably won’t rid someone with a spider phobia; the same with birth.
Some people feel a huge sense of relief when they get to know the physiology of their body for birthing, and for many others, we need to go on in there and repattern the bodies response to this understandable fear.
Getting rid of worries, anxiety and intrusive thoughts as you approach your birth can make the pregnancy and the birth a much nicer experience for you.
If you have concerns over your care provider, please do let me know and we can talk about ways to find the care that you deserve.